Nursing Communication: How To Make Sure Patients Feel Our Caring

Ineffective nursing communication occurred atpresent, you don't miss valuable cues about the
one hospital as illustrated in the followingperson's thoughts and feelings -- cues that help
example:  A patient complained that no one hadyou meet people's needs exceptionally well.
been in all night to check on her.  The PatientThe pivotal skill of presence doesn't take more of
Relations Rep went to find out if that was true. your time.  It makes every moment of
She found out that the patient's nurse had in factconnection with the patient precious so your
been into the room four times, doing things for orcaring comes across loud and clear.
to the patient each time.  Four times!  TheTips for Practicing Presence
nurse had been there physically and felt caring,- Take a deep breath.  Bring your attention to
yet the person who was the patient didn't feelthe present moment.
she received any quality contact or caring from- Physically shift to a posture of presence.  Place
the nurse.your legs evenly on the floor.  Open your
Nurses are caring.  It's a given.  Yet, in today'spalms.  Face the person fully.  Aim your heart at
pressured work environment of endlesstheirs.
multi-tasking and multiple priorities, they run the- Lean in.
risk that their caring may not come across- Tune in.
effectively to the patients and families they- Smile and make eye contact.
serve.  Connection to their caring mission can- Open your ears, eyes and heart.  Listen to the
fade because of the stress of endless to-do listsperson's thoughts and feelings.
and intense workloads.  This is anxiety-provoking- If you become distracted, take notice and tell
for patients and draining for nurses and theyourself to return your focus and caring to the
organization.person in the present moment.
Clearly, spending more time with patients isn't the
answer.  The fact is, unless barriers are removedNOT Being Present:  The Signs
and staffing and processes improved, there is no- Eyes wandering; looking away
more time for nursing communication.  Any- Maintaining eye contact, but not really listening
suggestion that nurses should spend more time --- Doing something else while someone is talking to
time that they don't have-is maddening andyou
breeds resistance to improvement strategies. - Chatting with a coworker while customer is
Therefore, it's helpful to focus not on the quantitywaiting
of time nurses spend, but on the quality of that- Allowing interruptions by any and all people or
time with their patients and families.  Thecalls
challenge is to make certain that their caring- Allowing an important interruption without
comes across to the people they serve duringexcusing yourself and explaining
the precious time they do spend with them.- Acting tired, bored or distracted
So how can nurses make certain that their caring- Looking at your watch
is felt by patients and families during the precious- Interrupting the person talking
time they spend with them?- Turning your back without apologizing or
If I could advance one skill in nursingexplaining
communication that would create breakthroughs in- Walking away with no explanation or goodbye
the patient experience and job satisfaction, itHelp your team enhance nursing communication
would be the skill of "presence."  This learnablethrough the pivotal practice of presence.  Ask
skill involves controlling your attention so thethem to experiment with a small number of
person on the receiving end feels like the centerpatients and family members.  Then set a date
of your universe during the precious momentsto discuss the results.
you have with them.  The payoffs:  PatientsThe Impact Is Amazing
feel your focus and caring, you connect withIn my experience working with teams who have
them, and your work becomes morefocused on the practice of presence, I have seen
meaningful.  When you practice presence, thehow energizing it is for the staff and how healing
patient feels important -- that they are your soleit is for patients and families -- when nursing
focus.  They also feel like your soul focus.  Thiscommunication is grounded in the nurse's caring
helps them feel supported, less anxious and theypresence.
actually heal faster.  Also, when you are fully