| These are things that I have learned from my | | | | -A little obsessiveness is not a bad thing. |
| patients in treatment over the years. They are | | | | -Mind the holes in anyone with a swiss cheese |
| some of the most important lessons that one can | | | | ego. |
| receive in life. | | | | -If you sleep well at night, you can probably deal |
| -The opposite of love is indifference. | | | | with most of your problems pretty well. |
| -The best revenge is living well. | | | | -Pick your fights. |
| -The best way to raise a good child is for the | | | | -Depression is anger turned toward the self. |
| parents to love each other. | | | | -Never be jealous of your children. |
| -The difference between theory and practice is | | | | -The key to a good marriage is compromise. |
| greater in practice than it is in theory. | | | | -Most any psychiatric diagnosis given to a child is |
| -The essence of psychotherapy is to learn to | | | | only a guess. |
| understand, then forgive and forget. | | | | -Grudges only hurt the grudge-holder. |
| -Everyone is entitled to make mistakes. | | | | -The psychotherapist may not cure disease, but |
| -If you get the first 25 years of your life right, | | | | helps patients to learn how to love. |
| the next 75 years take care of themselves | | | | -There are two spheres of life - the home sphere |
| -The only self-help book you need is yourself. | | | | and the work sphere. We need calm in one of |
| -Medication helps about ten percent, therapy | | | | them. |
| about ninety percent. | | | | -In general, people are searching for peace and |
| -Be an ant, not a grasshopper. | | | | quiet. |
| -Life is what happens after 5:00 p.m. | | | | -Almost everything truly is small stuff. |
| -Most people's idea of the ideal family comes | | | | -The ego is soluble in alcohol. |
| from television. | | | | -Television is not necessarily bad for children. |
| -Even the Simpsons are happy. | | | | -To understand the concept of ambivalence, think |
| -To be happy in a relationship requires you to first | | | | of sitting in your car at a red light. You cannot |
| be happy with yourself. | | | | decide to turn left or right. The light changes to |
| -G-d provides opportunities. | | | | green and the cars behind you start to honk. You |
| -You can never have too much education. | | | | still are just sitting there. |
| -You can have too much therapy. | | | | -Ruminating about the past is like watching the |
| -Sometimes, it takes years of therapy to reach | | | | same movie over and over again and hoping that |
| an answer so obvious that it was always there. | | | | the ending changes. |
| -In therapy, the patient has all of the answers. | | | | -Look for answers where you'll find them, not |
| The physician only helps him find them. | | | | simply where the light is better. |
| -The most important part of anyone's life is the | | | | -Intimacy starts with holding hands and saying I |
| first six years. Treat them like gold. | | | | love you. |