| Do you ever feel like you are burdened with the | | | | fullest. Living in fear is like living in a lunar eclipse; |
| weight of the world on your shoulders? Often | | | | you can never see the illumination because your |
| times the weight of the world is really the weight | | | | joy is being blocked. Take small steps, feel the |
| of your inner world. The world that you may | | | | fear and do it anyway. |
| neglect at times, unbeknownst to you. Sometimes | | | | 4. Lying - there is a difference between harmless |
| when we get so busy in our lives, we may | | | | white lies and lies that can harm, defame and ruin |
| inadvertently channel these traits that we can | | | | someone's life. If you have to lie to other people, |
| really live without. | | | | then you are really lying to yourself. Being honest |
| 1. Anger - not good. Two more words; anger | | | | and having integrity is worth more than lying for |
| management. It's no fun being on either end of | | | | any reason. There are exceptions, but use |
| anger. Though sometimes it is justified, anger can | | | | discretion if you have to stretch the truth. Think |
| be an emotional tsunami with serious health | | | | of the outcome before you say it. |
| complications that can shorten life span and | | | | 5. Infidelity - there is no excuse for this. The |
| interfere with quality of life. | | | | statistics are staggering. Most infidelity goes |
| In a major study, researchers at the University | | | | undetected. Given the secretive nature of |
| of California, Berkeley identified chronic anger and | | | | infidelity, exact figures about cheating and |
| hostility as key triggers of smoking and excessive | | | | extramarital affairs are nearly impossible to |
| drinking, and obstacles to healthy immune function. | | | | establish. It is estimated that roughly 30 to 60% |
| In addition, episodes of anger were found to play | | | | of all married individuals (in the United States) will |
| a role in the onset of potentially deadly ischemic | | | | engage in infidelity. These numbers are probably |
| strokes. | | | | on the conservative side, when you consider that |
| Anger typically occurs in degrees, ranging from | | | | close to half of all marriages end in divorce. |
| mild annoyance to intense rage and not all of it is | | | | If you feel that you have to cheat, then you |
| vocalized. It is best to communicate, if that's not | | | | should probably get out of the relationship. Why |
| possible, learn to differentiate between the action | | | | put your partner through the pain of adultery? |
| you WANT to take and the action you MUST | | | | We all want to be loved, but when we pick the |
| take. | | | | wrong partner, that can lead to a lifetime of pain |
| 2. Aggression - we often hear that aggression is | | | | and baggage that can follow us from relationship |
| good, but is that really the case? Like a lion ready | | | | to relationship. It's better to pack your bags than |
| to pounce, aggressiveness puts us on edge. It | | | | to have baggage. |
| may be a jungle out there, but that does not | | | | 6. Ridicule - putting other people down to elevate |
| mean that we have to be the lion. It's true that | | | | yourself shows a defect in your character. If |
| you can get more flies with honey than with | | | | there is something inside of you that gets a kick |
| vinegar. Do aggressive people really get ahead or | | | | out of another's downfall, then something inside of |
| do they ruffle as many feathers as possible to | | | | you is off kilter. It behooves us to treat others |
| rise to the top? What aggressive people may not | | | | as we want to be treated. People don't want to |
| realize is that what goes around comes around. | | | | be mistreated. When an elephant falls, even the |
| 3. Fear - we are here to experience life at it's | | | | frogs kick him. |